cronechronicler

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Everyday Inspiration Day Five: “What Is Real?”

on October 8, 2016

It doesn’t happen all at once, said the Skin Horse (to the Velveteen Rabbit). You  become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off (by children who play with you), and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and  very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.   From The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams.

I discovered this quote from a children’s book  long after my children were the age for bedtime stories. I was going through a divorce when I first read these words. They echoed the words of a counselor who told me I had to go through this difficult time, not around it. What the Skin Horse said about being Real comes back to me now that age is actually loosening my joints, I no longer have vision in one of my eyes and I am a bit shabby compared to my younger years. I  do still have my hair, now grown white.

Aging has challenges I do not expect to escape. Still, being Real is pretty wonderful. It helps me see that I am much more than what is visible on the outside. I’ve gained self-acceptance,  wisdom and strength  letting myself just Be.


7 responses to “Everyday Inspiration Day Five: “What Is Real?”

  1. What a lovely lovely post. Thank you so much.

  2. I love the way you link your lessons about being ‘real’ to the quote (I’m sure you have been loved by many children too!)

  3. Eileen says:

    One of my favorite books. I’m definitely a bit tatty now, but so are most of my friends. So, it doesn’t matter anymore. Like the connection your counselor made also. In a boggy patch right now, so this reminder was a gift. Thanks.

  4. hbsuefred says:

    Definitely among the many benefits of aging that I too am now enjoying.

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