Sometimes everything has to be enscribed across the heavens so you can find the one line already written inside you. Sometimes it takes a great sky to find that small, bright, and indescribable wedge of freedom in your own heart. David Whyte

Division of Labor 50’s Style

on September 24, 2014

Three sons came wondrously into our lives.
Named, welcomed, cradled and loved.
Born to two people equal in mystery.
Born out of prayer, desire and good will.

Our roles carved out clearly, new mother and father
Divided by dictates of wage earning and care.
We accepted directions designed by the culture.
How can we go wrong if we follow the past?

You played the game with your business and briefcase,
I toiled the ancient time-honored task, mom.
It became clear to me whose was the real work.
How can mere money surpass mother’s milk?

My anger stoked tension and pulled us apart.
All that the mystery sought to unite
Clashed in unfolding lives shaped by old values.
And down crashed the cradle, the babies and all.

How can the mystery tell us a new tale?
Where can we start over to patch up the past
Begin a new tapestry strong in its weaving,
Healing, forgiving, creating in love?

10 responses to “Division of Labor 50’s Style

  1. Silver Threading says:

    Such deep feelings. Your words speak to many couples from that era. I am sending you a hug! ♡

  2. vivachange77 says:

    Colleen, Thanks for your comment and most of all for the hug. ❤

  3. Wow! Great poem Vivachange! Expectations, tensions, and all! Great job!

  4. Great poem. Sadly, today, many women play the dual role of “homemaker” and “wage earner.” Some, because the male is absent from the home. Or, in some cases, the male is still present but maintains the archaic belief that housework is women’s work.

  5. vivachange77 says:

    Thanks. Yes, sad things are not much different now. My sister was a single parent and it was rough.

  6. JoHanna Massey says:

    Powerful true words. Those were the days, weren’t they? Thank you. 🐞

  7. micketalbot says:

    A tanka comment

    words you write
    a woman’s plight should be shared
    any man
    worth his weight should tell you
    emancipation can work

  8. vivachange77 says:

    I’m proud of my sons who are emancipated. I think you are a man worth your weight. ❤

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